Are you a mom of a child that you love deeply but misbehaves on a daily basis? Do you know what’s the best way to discipline your child? If you are not sure about your answer keep reading because this article is going to give you Six Ideas To Help You Discipline Your Kid the right and positive way. Ready? Let’s begin.
Well, as you may be aware, there is a wide range of thought on this subject. One school of thought teaches essentially hand’s off, and says, the little darlings are very intelligent, so let them figure it all out on their own. No punishment or reward systems. Still another extreme says that the Singapore model of “caning” people for littering is a good one.
Most of us find ourselves in between these two nutty positions…and the word “nutty” is being charitable. If you don’t think so, then stop reading. You’re a lost cause and should find yourself a nice rubber room somewhere so that you don’t hurt yourself or anyone else.
The fact is that, anyone who actually watches children behave without preset mental filters will almost certainly come to the conclusion that different children responds differently to the same things. Some kids have a very high “pain” threshold. They can take whatever penalties you exact as they stubbornly refuse to do what they should do. There are others who can be easily motivated by various token systems.
So how do you find out what method of discipline will work for your kid(s)?, In a word: experiment!
Here you have 6 Effective Tips To Help You Discipline Your Kid.
Tip #1 – Do some parenting homework.
Put on your “scientist hat.” Research what’s out there. No author knows your kid better than you do. But many researchers have seen thousands of kids and had opportunities to try various strategies with kids and their families. So knowing what’s been done before is a very good strategy in and of itself.
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Tip #2 – Get to know your child.
Once you have a sense of what is possible, start interacting with your own kid(s). Bear in mind that we live in societies that are increasingly filled with busybodies who do everything they can to blur the lines between discipline and abuse. So be careful as you try different discipline ideas.
Important note: as you try these ideas, it is critically important that you first remember your main goal: raising good, intelligent children. And second, be patient. This is as much an experiment for them as it is for you. They’ve never been where they are right now. It’s their first time being a kid at the age they are. And remember, you’re not dealing with lab rats here. You’re dealing with *your* children. Never lose sight of that.
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Tip #3 – Keep it up, consistency is the mother of success when it comes to Discipline Your Kid.
When you find something that seems to work, don’t think you can finally relax. Nothing of the sort, my friend. Don’t confuse short term hits to the bull’s-eye with long term success. Your child may be responding to novelty as much as to the discipline. When the novelty wears off, and it will, your child may very well revert to the old behaviors that you tried to change. Novelty has a tough time lasting more than a few weeks. So give things at least 3-6 weeks to see if the changes are enduring.
Consistency and predictability is crucial when it comes to parenting. When parents are consistent in their reactions and consequences, they become predictable to their children. Their child becomes able to predict how they will react in specific situations.
Tip #4 – Tweak before making major changes in your efforts.
For example, suppose you are rewarding your kid(s) with pizza at the end of the week if certain things are done right. And suppose you have reason to believe they are responding to novelty rather than the measures themselves. Rather than junking the measures, tweak them a bit to determine if your suspicion is valid. For example, you might vary the food rewards and say, “Look, if you do the right things, you get to pick what we have for Friday dinner.” You might be on the right track and tweaking gives you a chance to really find out.
Tip #5 – Emphasize and Praise Good Behavior.
If your child’s bad behavior won’t cause any harm, such as a tantrum, whining, or another misbehavior, you can choose to ignore it. 9 In these instances, an effective positive disciplinary approach can involve praising good behavior and rewarding it with hugs, high-fives, or special activities like a trip to the park.
While ignoring a screaming child is much easier said than done, they will eventually learn to associate good behavior with positive attention and praise, while learning that their bad behavior gains them nothing other than problems.
Tip #6 – Be wise to admit when you need help.
Finally, be humble enough to know that you might need professional family help in the form of therapists and other counselor types. You’ve got to be careful here because these professionals vary widely in terms of competence and also in terms of appropriateness for your family. For example, some therapists suggest Ritalin as the first line of therapeutic intervention if the child is having trouble in school. You have a right to be skeptical in such situations. Listen to your own inner voice here. No matter how well intentioned, many therapists simply get things wrong. If the one you’ve initially selected isn’t right for your child or your family, try another.
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Parenting mistakes you need to AVOID while Discipline Your Child.
- Give your child unclear instructions.
- Scold in public or in front of strangers.
- Bribing your child to obtain better or faster results.
- Losing control or freaking out in front of your child.
- Shaming your child.
- Taking it personally.
- Letting things slide.
- Not being consistent.
- Avoid yelling, spanking or punishments, is not going to help.
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Final thoughts about Ideas To Help You Discipline Your Kid.
Always remember that there are professional organizations that can help you find a decent therapist if there is a need. America and many other nations are rich in resources to help families. Look to them if your problems grow too intense for you to handle on your own.
Finally, use common sense. Sounds strange perhaps, but the fact is that no matter what professional help you may seek out, no matter what books you read, and no matter what online forums you participate in YOU will be making the decisions. You are responsible, like it or not. Use the best intelligence you can and proceed with caution. And to finish with today’s article, never forget that love, understanding and respect are also powerful tools when it comes to Discipline Your Kid.
Zadi, xo
Oh how to discipline your kids is never an easy task. This tips you provided are very helpful indeed.
Thank you so much, I am glad it was helpful to you. Don’t forget to share it so it can reach other mommies.